Life according to Ayesha

IS IT WORTH IT?   

There is a new movie coming out which is an adaptaion of a book ” he’s just not that into you”. I like the premise of this book but totally disagree with the title. Women should never judge their own self worth by how a man views or treats them. I think a more appropriate title for this whole phenomenon would be ” Is he really worth it? “. I give 150 % into my relationship and if a man is truly worth my time he has to be able to atleast put in a 100%. I know its harder for them so I will cut them some slack..

Are you worth the effort? – YES you are!  Women need to start living for themselves either they be “16″ or “60″,  believe in themselves and be self confident. This book/movie  teaches  you that if “he does not do this or that” women he is not into you and you should walk away.  Again it is teaching women to judge themselves according to how a man sees us. It isn’t about that, it is about dignity and respect – by that I mean our own self respect. If you dont feel good in a relationship then you need to take the steps to make things right. I know we are naturally as women emotional in nature and I am not saying your feelings will go away because they don’t just dissappear, but please dont let yourself be treated like a doormat. If he isnt calling you back, don’t text him 200 X to let him know you care. Trust me he knows u r there and if you have let him know once how you feel and he truly cares he will let you know. He is choosing to ignore you. There is a lot more dignity in knowing when to walk away!!! -”I can’t emphasize that enough”- I know it is hard especially if you truly love someone, but it is harder in the long run to first be hurt, lose your self worth and then doubt your own self confidence. We need to find our inner strength and never let anyone make you doubt the person that you are. I have done this and have recently just seen a very close friend hurt deeply by someone she  really beleived in. Trust me if he is ”truly worth it? ” he will treat you with RESPECT. BTW – That goes both ways if you have dumped on him dont expect respect in return but if you havent then respect is the cornerstone of any relationship. Every relationship can have issues but if there is respect you can work through them if it’s “REAL” the love that is- If the mutual respect is lost though there is no point to the relationship….Just remeber one thing when sometimes it is hard to let go……

 A friend recently told me that ” women have a hard time letting go” . I thought about that and in many cases he is probably right and we do need to realize when to walk away. Sometimes men just keep prolonging a relationship because they don’t know how to hurt someone or are letting you down easy- this to me equals just prolonged pain and heartache for everyone. There are some men though that just love the feeling of power it gives them to know there is someone crazy over them but not all are like that – I dont generalize – there are good one out there— and there is hope:) He isn’t necessarily an idiot he just may not be the one for you.  

The age old saying is what rings true here – ” if you love something set it free if it comes back it is yours if it does not it never was” —  Women need to trust themsleves and never compromise their self respect –If you truly love yourself then eventually the right person will come along who will love you – The best of you and the worst of you and the feeling will be mutual because no one is perfect.  

True magic is created in the heart and if it is real love it will find a way to express itself… It will be worth the effort and the wait!!!